Riding a bike, taking fitness classes, walking in nature, exploring new places — these are a few activities I really like. What I LOVE is spending time with my daughter. Therefore, when the Oaks at Ojai offered me the opportunity to visit their spa for a weekend with her, I skipped and hopped right over. (Actually I also lay on a massage table that involved a pixie orange scrub and appealing scents. A visit to the Oaks includes some relaxation too, for sure!).
Although the Oaks at Ojai in southern California bills itself as “the only spa retreat in the US designed for women over 40,” my 24 year old and I found a lot to do. We could easily have stayed much longer on our Mother-Daughter weekend.Where to go for a fun, active, generation linking Mother-Daughter retreat? #Oaksspa Click To Tweet
We baby boomer women are smart and clever moms, right? Many of us also have grown daughters whom we’d love to spend more time with. Am I right again? Let’s just say I found it easy to entice my one and only up from LA to meet me for a weekend of pool classes, hikes in the nearby mountains and meadows, massages, window shopping, and healthy dining.
We both got a kick out of our spacious room and bathroom. I convinced myself that even if I snored, our beds were so big, comfy, and spread out that my daughter would not hear me. That turned out to be true but it could have been the fact that she hit the cardio equipment and hot tub so was merely exhausted. My blog, my version rules (heh heh).
On our second morning I opted to hike alone while my daughter headed to her massage. We reconnoitered for lunch, where I promptly spilled my iced tea. Yes, we can still embarrass our children even when they’re grown. (Note to those considering a trip to the Oaks at Ojai – they were very kind about my mishap.) We managed to fit in a bike ride and lounge time at the spa as well. That evening we ventured to a trail on the edge of town where we both fell in love with the views and plantings along the way.
The balance we found between active and relax time; between together and apart time must have been perfect given my daughter’s question as we checked out. “Mom, when can you take me here again?” We baby boomer moms know the translation for that is: “when can you pay for me to come with you again?” Hey, none too soon. Though the Oaks at Ojai comped us this visit, it does not hurt to dangle the “return on my dime” carrot to have another Mother-Daughter retreat at one of the area’s most accessible, affordable, longtime spas. Spaaaaaaahhhhhhh!
To see more pretty pictures and stories of past adventures at the Oaks at Ojai, read these posts my clever sister wrote:
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Kymberly Williiams-Evans, MA
Just to be clear, in this case, “we” was NOT my sister and I (see the part just there that mentions romance). Last year my sis and I went to the spa for Bike Week, so you can go for the active adventures, or wind down with spa treatments. Or both. This time I went for relaxation and spa treatments (you don’t have to be a guest to take advantage of the spa services, FYI).
For Pixie Month, my particular friend and I showed up in time for dinner, which included a Pixie mousse for dessert. Yes, you CAN get dessert at a fitness spa. Our goal was to relax after a busy week, so we took a short stroll after dinner, then sat in the hot tub contemplating our good luck at having it all to ourselves.April is Pixie tangerine month at the Oaks at Ojai. Ready for your visit? Click To TweetAfter breakfast, which included as many Pixies as we could fit in our pockets, we drove to the Ojai Meadows Preserve for a hand-in-hand stroll, where we saw several hundred teeny tiny frogs. We were tempted by both the morning hike and the aqua class at the spa (I have done both in the past, and loved them), but we were focused on our “together” time, so chose solo activities instead.
By the time we got back to The Oaks at Ojai, it was time for our spa treatments. In my case, that meant a pixie pedicure. Yup, it included a foot and leg scrub infused with tangerines, plus a fresh tangerine squeezed into the foot soak water. I almost chose tangerine as my nail polish color, then decided to go with a merlot color. I’m sure both sound delicious. My friend had a massage, which I was surprised to learn was the first he’d ever had in his life. How is it possible that he made it into his fifties without ever having a massage? In any case, he loved it, including the hot stones, and now he knows what he’s been missing.
ABC Channel 7 did a piece about Pixie month and the Oaks at Ojai, which we recommend you watch. The spa is only 45 minutes away from Santa Barbara, and includes a scenic drive past Lake Casitas. If you’re coming from L.A., it’s only an hour’s drive.
My little extra piece of advice? You can go for a girls’ getaway (some friends did that a week before our visit), or with a male partner. Some people think the Oaks at Ojai is just for women, but that’s not the case at all. There were a number of men there (though mine was the handsomest). And if you want to laugh, ask for Rachel at the front desk. She’s a hoot.
Alexandra Williams, MA
This is not a sponsored post, though I was a special guest at the spa for the night.
We just spent a few nights there, and managed to relax and be active simultaneously. The Oaks at Ojai is a small, family-owned spa right in the middle of downtown Ojai. Does that mean it’s busy or noisy? Just the opposite, as Ojai is a mellow town of only 8,000 people. Our totally unscientific guess is that 5,000 of them are artists, and the other 3,000 are hikers and bicyclists.Headed to The Oaks at Ojai? We may join you for a walk, swim, bike ride, massage, meal or retail therapy. @OaksSpa Click To Tweet
Skin Authority Fit & Firm Treatments (Fit & Firm for Fun & Fit – perfect)
Bike Riding on a path that leads all the way to the ocean at Ventura
A sunset meditation on Mount Meditation
Fitness classes (ever tried Glow in the Dark Qi Gong?)
Had 3 meals a day prepared to our specific diet
Played Bingo (though we didn’t win the muffins, dang it)
Made new friends
Visited Bart’s Bookstore (which leaves books outdoors at night – you pay on the honor system)
Lost a little weight
Hiked the Valley View Preserve (with absolutely stunning panoramic views)
We even met a woman who was leaving after a 3-week stay. She said she wanted a place to recuperate and make new friends after going through knee surgery and rehab. Once she got there, she didn’t want to leave. So she didn’t.
We didn’t want to leave either, but it was time to go to L.A. to celebrate our mom’s 86th birthday. The drive to L.A. is just over an hour. From where we live in Santa Barbara it’s only a 45 minute drive, so we’ll be back. Heck, I need to put my brand new bike lock to use, though I never actually locked my bike while we were there. I just parked it in the private patio garden at our bungalow.
Alexandra Williams, MA
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We were not paid to write this post. We were invited guests of the Oaks at Ojai for 2 nights, and boy did we appreciate their hospitality. So much so that I even taught the guests the “Thriller” dance (insert wolf howl right here).