Making lasting life style changes, especially in the context of fitness and weight loss, takes dedication — but it’s doable. Most people know to exercise regularly, eat well, and reduce stress in order to make a change for the better. But somewhere between knowing what to do and actually doing it, we fall into the “Abyss of Inertia.” Why is that? And what can we do to move from stuck to started?
It’s easy to be at level 1 (I’d like to lose 50 pounds) and wish to be at level 10 (I lost 50 pounds), yet it’s extremely challenging to get from 1 to 10 unless you have the steps in between mapped out. You know where you are and where you want to be, but don’t know how to get there.
Fortunately, we know and we’re going to share! That’s what 35 years each as certified fitness pros and Alexandra’s advanced degree in Counseling allow us to claim.To make lifestyle changes, choose Simple, Specific, Sustainable Steps that will lead to Success-… Click To Tweet
To make lifestyle changes, both big and small, make a 1-10 numbered list. One = where you are now; ten = what your new, improved, fit life will look like. Where do you want to be?, aka — your goal. List the steps it will take to get to this goal. Choose Simple, Specific, Sustainable Steps that will lead to Success. It’s all about the letter S!
A typical example of an overwhelming goal : I want to lead a healthier lifestyle. This statement is rather vague, making it hard to know if/ when you’re successful. A better starting point might be: I want to eat more berries and veggies, select food and companies I can trust to nourish me well, and move at least 150 minutes each week. From there you plug in small changes that you will actually do. Instead of thinking in grand scale (though we wouldn’t mind living in grand scale in Highclere Castle, where Downton Abbey is filmed), think of the least you can do. Multiple easy choices go further than grand, sweeping plans that come to nought. Unless you’re the broom in Beauty and the Beast.Asking yourself what is the LEAST you can do to improve your fitness level, and your chances for… Click To Tweet
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You’ve probably figured out that thousands of options exist that would fit into your seven steps. Mix and match according to your goals. And of course, making a change is really way more than seven steps, though picking a manageable number will get you moving forward. The sample plan above has nothing earth-shattering or magical, which is good. It means you don’t need to wait for the earth to move or a magic wand to sparkle. You just need to make small decisions repeatedly until they become a habit and you realize three months have passed, and you are now eating more healthfully and have dropped the 20 pounds.
Won’t it be great to shift from “I need to change my life?” to “I know how to change my life for the better and I did it!”
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Photos taken by Alexandra Williams except the first one and as noted.
Alexandra Williams, MA and Kymberly Williams-Evans, MA
Always on the lookout for affordable destinations that appeal to active Boomer women and their families, we were the sponsored guests of Visit Redding this past weekend. And boy, did we pack a lot into a few days, though we never felt rushed. Probably due to the proximity of everything. Really, it’s only a 20-minute drive from the Fairfield Inn & Suites to Whiskeytown Lake.On the lookout for affordable destinations that appeal to active Boomer women and their families? Click To Tweet
In this post we’ll share our adventures from the first day two days, then share the last two days in an upcoming post (stay tuned for kayaking and lorikeets). If you like travel adventures that combine nature, new activities, free and low-cost sightseeing and sight-doing, then tour with us through this post. Then book your own active adventure to the Redding area.
Whiskeytown Waterfalls in Whiskeytown-Shasta-Trinity National Recreation Area
Park rangers first knew of these falls in 1967, but kept quiet, as they didn’t have the resources to protect them, even though President Kennedy had proclaimed the 42,000 acre park a national recreation area in 1963. In 2004, a park biologist was examining aerial photos and rediscovered the falls.
The trail to Whiskeytown Falls is 3.4 miles round trip. Steep in parts, it’s worth the hike. Be sure to take the stone trail to the left of the falls to get some extra special views. Pack water and a snack too, as you’ll get thirsty watching all that water. Fair warning that this hike will give you a serious glute and anaerobic workout.Whiskeytown Falls hike will give you a serious glute & anaerobic workout #VisitRedding Click To Tweet
Shasta State Historic Park & Museum
Shasta Dam and Powerplant
Want to be impressed by the former generation and your fellow humans? Take the tour of Shasta Dam. It’s free. Regardless of your views on dams, you have to marvel at the human ingenuity and vision that engineered and created this structure. One of us (Kymberly) almost skipped the tour, professing a desire to bike ride along the Sacramento river trails instead. Given that we southern Californians seem to have brought the mist and rain on our last journeys, off we all went instead to Shasta Dam. And was it ever a highlight. Hot tip: When the brochures and guides tell you to leave everything but your cell phone and keys in the car, they mean it. Security is tighter than our lips about what happened when someone in our family (not Kymberly) tried to bring “security contraband” past the security checkpoint and guard.
Lake Shasta Caverns: Three Adventures in One
We promised ourselves on frequent drives between Santa Barbara and Oregon that someday we’d stop and visit the caves. This trip was that someday. Like Whiskeytown National Park and Shasta Dam, the caverns are easily accessible — about 20 minutes north of Redding. You take a 10-minute boat ride across the lake (bring your camera for spectacular views), then a 10-minute shuttle ride up, up, up, then you are in the cave. As for coming out of the cave, well … that’s on you and those several hundred stairsteps. You want out? Keep climbing. That’s the beauty of living an active life. You’re able to see and do more when you travel.
Alexandra: This got a strong thumbs-up from my 19-year-old son, so off we went to our first-ever rodeo. It was actually quite exciting, with guys getting thrown off broncs that buck, and calves getting roped and tied (trussed?) in under 10 seconds.
My son wanted to stay for the entire event, but I was hungry, so talked him into leaving early. We looked on Yelp and found Cafe Paradisio, a classy, comfortable place that’s run by a husband and wife who just happened to have two of their children about to graduate from UCSB. Eat here for sure – excellent service and intentionally underpriced for items such as Honey Stung Shrimp, Baked Salmon and French Press Coffee.
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photo credits – Alexandra, using a Canon. Kymberly where noted.
by Alexandra Williams, MA and Kymberly Williams-Evans, MA
Carmel was incorporated in 1916; Hermosa in 1907. Both attract surfers, though the water is definitely colder in Carmel. And both have small cottages that were built generations ago sitting next to award winning, “to the lot’s edge” architectural wonders on every street. Don’t ask the prices unless you aren’t daunted by California real estate.
As part of a bloggers’ weekend, I drove up to Carmel with the simple expectation that I would have a good time. Since so many of you are similar to me in that we like history and the personal touch, I’ll share some of the things I did and discovered that I think YOU might also enjoy.
A gutsy, go-getter woman founded the hotel where we stayed – Donna Hofsas. In 1947 she lived in the cottage where I stayed while adding more rooms over the years. In a town that only allows two-story buildings, she talked the city planners into letting her build a 4-story hotel. How’s that for moxie? Then she commissioned the same female painter who did the fresco at Coit Tower, Maxine Albro, to paint several murals and other works at the hotel.
Donna’s granddaughter now runs the bright pink Hofsas House (as well as being on the city council), so ask her for the hotel’s secrets when you stay there. Hofsas House is on San Carlos Street between 3rd and 4th Avenue (see below to discover why I’m not giving you a numbered address).
On the details side, Carmel is more affordable than I expected. Even in high season, room rates range from about $150 – $275, with no stupid ***@** resort fee snuck in. Wifi, breakfast and parking are free.
Did you know it’s illegal to wear heels higher than 2 inches in Carmel? You won’t get a ticket: the law was created in the 1920s to protect the city from lawsuits from people who tripped on the sidewalks. Great excuse to put on sensible shoes, eh?
The town has no street light or addresses. Walk around and you’ll notice that homes all have names. Keep in mind that the town was founded by creative types. They wanted a forested, European feel to the town, so bourgeois things such as number plates were verboten. Everyone has to go to the post office to collect mail. Certainly means all 3,700 inhabitants get to know each other.
For now, you can still have fires in certain locales on the beach too. This was exciting for me to hear, as we used to dig sand pits and have fires on the beach in Hermosa in the 60s. They were banned by the time I hit middle school.
No big box inns or stores are in Carmel either. It’s mom and pop all the way. Actually, the town is so friendly, even your dogs are welcome. Even in the inns, restaurants, wine-tasting rooms and shops, where you’ll spot water dishes and treats everywhere. Annnnnd, free parking.
Shopping, Hiking and Dining
Compliments of the Hofsas House, I received four Wine Walk Tasting tickets, each good for a wine flight at any of the 14 wine tasting rooms in town. Yup, I left Santa Barbara County’s wine country and landed in Monterey County’s. I also discovered two designer consignment shops, an Alice in Wonderland shop, a chocolate shop, and enough bakeries to keep my bread-baking, carb-loving self happy.
For dinner, a friend and I went to Beach House Restaurant at Lover’s Point in Pacific Grove (an 8-minute drive). It’s right on the beach, and our service and food were excellent. Plenty of options for vegetarians, too. FYI, the portions are huge, huger, hugest, so come hungry.
Hiking is my meditation, so I walked along the beach, around town on the residential streets, Point Lobos, Big Sur, and about 20 different pull-out stops along Highway 1 as I drove south. On my next visit I might take one of the History Walks, though I could also be persuaded to do the art walks or food tours. I also want to hike along the Mission Trail Preserve. For those of you into birds, one of the secrets I learned from Carrie (co-owner of Hofsas House) is that the Carmel River is the place to be.
Final piece of good news that you will never think about in advance, but makes a big difference – Carmel-by-the-Sea is a safe place for women to walk alone, day and night. I went walking early in the morning, and felt at ease and quite peaceful. Even though I had my iPhone and Canon out (major tourist alerts), the locals out running and dog-walking all said hello. I truly had to resist the urge to say, “I grew up in a town that used to be just like this. Can we please chat about the good ol’ days?”
I want to go back soon. Preferably on a romantic getaway, but another girls’ getaway would work too.
by Alexandra Williams, MA
Photo credits: Alexandra Williams – Canon and iPhone
Ever wonder if house cleaning burns enough calories to make a difference? I got to wondering how many calories one burns after I did a bunch of house chores.
As we’ve mentioned before, if you incorporate more movement into your daily activities, you can successfully lose weight (or keep weight from jumping on to your body in the first place). So it sure would be nice if house cleaning fell into the “watch those kcals just fall off my body” category, wouldn’t it? (PS It’s also nice if you want to subscribe and get active aging answers from certified fitness pros twice a week).
Good news for all of us who have worked up a sweat changing the bed sheets, vacuuming the rugs, and dusting the ceilings (please don’t say I’m the only person who does this) – according to a recent study in the U.K., a good spring cleaning can burn more calories than running a marathon. Since I hate to run marathons, this is welcome news indeed!A good house cleaning can burn more calories than running a marathon. True or False? Click To Tweet
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Now back to calorie counting and housework:
According to the study (done by promotionalcodes.org.uk), a good spring cleaning burns 3,655 kcals, while a marathon burns 2,500 – 3,500. Yes, it will take you longer to do the cleaning than the running, but look on the bright side – you didn’t have to run. Check out this breakdown:
Quick math tells me that’s 16 hours of work. And I see no category for jumping onto the mattresses when you discover spiders lurking under the bed. I’m sure there’s a high calorie burn for that. I can testify that my heart rate was definitely in the “Working Very Hard” range.
Cleaning external doors isn’t my thing, though I do scrub down the area by the doorknobs. I’d also love to see the calorie count for scrubbing all the kitchen cabinets plus the stove hood and kitchen walls, mainly because I want credit for these chores. Does sweeping count as part of scrubbing?
So, who’s up for 20 minutes on the stairs? And who thinks this is good news? I know I’m excited, though I doubt I’ll pull on my workout gear and put out a 16 hour house chore workout. And how many calories did I burn getting all the dog hairs off the mini-trampoline?
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Alexandra Williams, MA
No women over 50 I know want the words “droopy,” “saggy,” or “wrinkly” to describe them, myself included. So when I was one of five lucky recipients of a Restylane facial aesthetic treatment at the recent Bloggers at Midlife conference (B@M), I shouted out with confidence and glee, “huh? What’s that?”
I had never pondered getting any facial cosmetic procedures, so was unfamiliar with the range of options. My approach thus far to retain good skin tone has been to drink lots of water and exercise regularly, both considered effective. I wasn’t really sure what I was getting into, but it sounded deluxe. And free (thanks to Restylane; its parent company, Galderma; Dr. Aspacio, and Dr. Annie Chiu. Consider this the official disclosure).
Are you like me when it comes to aging actively — pretty game to try new things? Let’s hope you are not like me in one regard: being clueless what a facial rejuvenation or facial filler treatment is. I had never heard of Restylane or Galderma. Hint – it’s not botox or cosmetic surgery.
One thing I did know as I raised my metaphorical midlife hand to take advantage of this valuable prize, is that skin is the body’s largest organ. And my skin had seen better “organ-ized” days. (Cracking myself up with that pun). So long undefined cheeks and wrinkles around my mouth; good-bye laugh lines. I hope and trust….
I was directed to a back corner of the conference room where a team of dermatology pros, led by Dr. Aspacio, MD, FAAD of Summerlin Dermatology in Las Vegas and Dr. Annie Chiu in the Los Angeles area awaited me … with:
But I had seen no blood, heard no screams or gasps from the other four winners, nor noticed anyone rendered comatose. Always good signs, right?
Yes, I was off on an aesthetic facial journey with a golden ticket, no return. However, I did catch the part early on about “smoothed out lines, more vital skin, contoured cheeks” and looking waaaaay younger than my twin sister. (I might be making up that last part.) In short, I was totally relaxed. These people seemed to know what they were doing. I knew our B@M conference organizers had selected their sponsors carefully. A cadre of other attendees said I was “lucky” and wished they’d been chosen.
Yes, for someone who usually over-researches details, I was going in calm and clueless. Here’s what I didn’t know:
Turns out it means having an absolutely adorable woman prep me by applying numbing cream to my face. No pain, no tingling, no slurred speech, no mouth that suddenly drooped, no drooling. Basically it felt like a mini-facial massage.
Needles are involved. Aha! Ergo the numbing cream. The focus of the Restylane Lyft is on the cheeks and smile lines, officially known as nasolabial folds. Those needles are filled with hyaluronic acid, a substance naturally produced by the body.The point is to plump up the area so it’s smooth. Dr Aspacio squirted safe, liquidy stuff into my face, checking constantly how I was feeling. Honestly, I felt very little except curiosity. From start to end took about half an hour.What exactly is a facial filler procedure. I didn't know exactly but I did it anyway. Hint: Not… Click To Tweet
I did figure out that it’s not cosmetic surgery, not muscle inhibiting, not something requiring bed rest or hiding away, not Botox. But what am I to call it? When people say to me, “what have you done, you look so refreshed and young? Alexandra must be your older sister, not twin,” I wanted to be able to give a nice, concise, accurate answer. My subsequent digging around online reveals the following descriptors:
If you decide to try this procedure, google any of the above terms to find WHO and what you want. Or just search “Restylane” and you’ll be good to go.
Dayum, but I got lucky here. Apparently the injector can make all the difference. In my case, I had a specially trained medical doctor. Turns out Dr. Aspacio is one of the top of the top notchers. In fact, Dr Chiu was there specifically to learn more from him. If you get a less qualified person you can end up with imbalances right to left. Or fakey looking, overfilled cheeks. Or other side effects that would make you wish you’d found Dr. Aspacio. Didn’t hurt that he was cute. What I most appreciated, though were his communication skills. He kept a calm running commentary about what he was doing, where and why. His assistants held my hand and closely monitored my reactions. The doctor and staff genuinely seemed to care how I was feeling. Who doesn’t like being the center of kind attention?
For the record, the whole procedure was fairly quick, practically painless, and non-anxiety producing. My heart rate didn’t even enter the cardio zone. Nor did I need to squeeze the squishy thing (see why I like to know the correct name for something? Kinda floundering otherwise).
Ha aha ahahah. Here’s where ignorance probably was bliss and that’s never been one of my life mottos or beliefs. If I’d focused on the possible side effects, I might have tensed up. The consent form mentions a few possibilities such as:
Here’s what side effects I experienced, both that day and thereafter:
Well, except looking smoother and refreshed. The second dermatology doctor who was observing handed me an ice pack “just in case.” I never needed it. I’m telling you, these people were really good at what they do! Pick the right doctor — and I do suggest going to a board certified doctor who specializes in this — and you will have both a good experience and results you’re happy with.
I was so wrapped up in how nice everyone was and that I’d won a $1000 gift, that I TOTALLY forgot to ask this question. Not until I returned home from the conference and had a member of my “Forever Fit” exercise class ask me about the duration did it dawn on me that I had no idea. (Yes, I shared my experience with my class as they commented that I looked really good. Gotta love those observant older adults!)
Apparently the results can last anywhere from six months to a year. The Restylane website has more details and stats if you are considering going for it. Only you will know whether an investment of $500-1000 to achieve younger looking skin for up to a year is worth it. I definitely noticed a positive difference right away. Check out my before and after pictures.
Now do you know why I had laugh lines? From cracking myself up. Often. For Decades.
All I know is that when I came home from the B@M conference, my husband said “good to see you. You look great. Where’s my wife?” True Story.
ACTION: Get another firsthand account from one of the other winners, Elaine Ambrose. She’s pretty darn funny as she hunts for her cheekbones.
Also look, point, and laugh at our related post on wanting to be perky, not saggy. But only if you want to perk up and look better.
If you want even more on aging actively and attractively, read these two posts as well:
Head shot Photo Credits: Lisa Lehman of Studio Jewel, courtesy of #Feedblitz
By Kymberly Williams-Evans, MA
Have you heard you have to hold a long-lever plank for 5 minutes in order to be “cool” or to achieve results? Are you reluctant to attempt this classic ab exercise because that goal seems out of reach? Good news! As few as 20 seconds doing planks with good form will strengthen your core and work your abs. As well, you don’t need to crunch, flex your neck, or lift up your head. Check out the benefit of dropping down after 20 seconds and restarting in this post we wrote on short duration planking: Interval Planks Will Activate Your Abs
Planks are accessible to nearly everyone, as many versions exist. If you are a beginner planker, start on your knees. If you want a bit more challenge, but are not yet ready for a parallel plank on your toes, place your feet wide apart. If you want a ton more ideas to improve your abs, then take advantage of the program we created specifically for baby boomers: The Ultimate Abs Workout Collection for Women Over 50.
Good question. Even better answer is to keep reading as we offer bullets below and a video demo. AAAAaaand, pop over to our post that has another video going over dos and don’ts.
If you’re considering adding planks to your fitness regimen, watch our video. You’ll see four different modifications, and instructions for good form.
As few as 20 seconds doing planks w/ good form will strengthen your core & work your abs Click To Tweet
One caveat: We mention holding for 30 seconds in the video, but research also indicates you can hold for as little as 20, take a short break, then get back into plank position. Whether you choose 20 or 30 second intervals, stick with the plank position that gives you the best form.
Alexandra Williams, MA and Kymberly Williams-Evans, MA
Not only did the sun shine on us for the entire visit, so did the design gods, as I saw enough to keep my status as “She Who Pauses Every Few Steps to Take a Photo.” Luckily, my friends were good sports (and also camera owners).
From big (the Duomo is so big I couldn’t get it all in the frame without serious distortion), to small (a Gessi faucet shaped like stones), I was just as happy to roam around all day playing looky-loo as I had been in Venice. In front of Biblioteca Ambrosiana just blocks from the Duomo, I came across a placard for a walking tour of the area’s buildings of interest. Now I MUST return, as I love walking, history, and “old stuff.” The tour looked like it could take several days, so maybe I should return in the Fall or Spring when it’s not too hot or crowded. No matter, as a friend and I spent the morning in the Brera district, which I totally recommend you explore when you get to Milan.
I was especially looking forward to our visit to sponsor Gessi because I’d heard their showroom was a former movie theater, with an underground secret garden. How cool is all that, especially when Gessi’s bathroom fittings and fixtures focus on private wellness and the in-home spa experience?
After spending most of the day in the sun, my descent into the cool dark of the Gessi showroom was enough to make my shoulders relax. I might have sighed too. Italian hospitality is pretty darn good. I was ushered into a lounge area where the other Design Hounds were seated. The top management people all came out to introduce themselves, and thanked us for coming. Then we were offered coffee (Italian coffee, not vending machine swill that tastes like used motor oil), champagne, water, and prosecco.
This was followed by a demonstration by artist-philosopher Marsel Lesko. He balanced large stones on smaller ones. We also watched a video of Lesko standing in the middle of a river, surrounded by numerous stones that he had balanced. What did this artist have to do with the company, I wondered? As it turns out, this is how Gessi works. Their mission is “to make everyday life more pleasant with objects of extraordinary beauty and functionality.” They want their faucets to be objets d’art, aspiration and decoration, so they look to nature as a source of inspiration.
After the demo we had a tour of the Indonesian, Scandinavian, and Moscow rooms. My favorite (nope, not the Moscow one even though I did Russian Studies at university) was the Scandinavian because it had the simple lines that I like. Besides, the Scandinavians like outdoor exercise and spas; I like outdoor exercise and spas. They value simplicity; I value simplicity. They are all tall and good-looking; I’m… good at side planks.
I considered hiding in the showroom, knowing they had snacks, drinks and running hot water, but we had a farewell pizza dinner to attend, so eventually I came out of the shower (did you know Gessi conceived the first ceiling-mounted faucet) and took the metro home, resisting the urge to slip my number to Marsel.